Saturday 20 August 2011

INVEST IN LOVE!!!

As they say: " the bigger your investment, the bigger your returns", but you have to be willing to take a chance, you might have to understand you might lose it all, but you can still take that chance if you invest wisely, because the payoff might just surprise you…

Sometimes the answer we get, just confirms our worst fears. But sometimes it can shed new light on the problem. You see it in a whole new way. After all the opinions have been heard and every point of view has been considered, you finally find what you were after, The Truth, but the truth isn’t where it ends. That’s just where you begin again. With a whole new set of questions...

Peace is not a permanent state. It exists in moments, fleeing, gone before we even knew it was there. We can experience it at any time, in the stranger’s act of kindness, a task which requires a complete focus, or simply a comfort of an old routine. Every day we all experience these moments in peace, the trick is to know when they are happening so that we can embrace them, live in them. And finally let them go...

Eventually whatever it is, that is making us stops feeling good and starts hurting. Still they say don’t kick the habit till you hit rock bottom, the thing is how do you know when you are there because no matter how bad a thing is hurting us, it hurts even more to let it go...

According to Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, when we're dying or have suffered a catastrophic loss, we all move through five distinct stages of grief. We go into DENIAL because the loss is so unthinkable we can't imagine it's true. We become ANGRY with everyone, angry with survivors, angry with ourselves. Then we BARGAIN. We beg. We plead. We offer everything we have; we offer our souls in exchange for just one more day. When the bargaining has failed and the anger is too hard to maintain, we fall into DEPRESSION, despair, until finally we have to ACCEPT that we've done everything we can. We let go. We let go and move into acceptance...

Grief may be a thing we all have in common, but it looks different on everyone. It isn't just death we have to grieve. It's life. It's loss. It's change. And when we wonder why it has to suck so much, sometimes it has to hurt so badly. The thing we gotta try to remember is that, it can turn on a dime. That's how you stay alive. When it hurts so much you can't breathe, that's how you survive. By remembering that one day, somehow, possibly, you won't feel this way. It won't hurt this much. Grief comes in its own time for everyone, in its own way. So the best we can do, the best anyone can do, is trying for honesty. The really crappy thing, the very worst part of grief is that you can't control it. The best we can do is tried to let ourselves feel it when it comes. And let it go when we can. The very worst part is that the minute you think you're past it, it starts all over again. And always, every time, it takes your breath away...

Everybody wants a piece of you. We take one little oath and suddenly we are drowning in obligations. So, we do what any sane person will do. We run like hell from our promises hoping they will be forgotten. But sooner or later they always catch up and sometimes you find the obligation you dread the most, isn’t worth running from it at all...

We're all susceptible to it, the dread and anxiety of not knowing what's coming. It's pointless in the end, because all the worrying and the making of plans for things that could or could not happen, it only makes things worse. So walk your dog or take a nap. Just whatever you do, stop worrying, because the only cure for paranoia is to be here, just as you are...

There is always a way. When things look like there's no way, there is a way. To do the impossible, to survive the un-survivable, there is always a way…so invest in love because the payoff might just blows your mind away…

( Archives - Old write up, extracted from my Facebook notes)


Zee...x

2 comments:

  1. Marry Me, u nor agree! now u investing in LOVE, invest in me nah!...lolol, 9ce write up inbtw..:)

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  2. hahahaha...Anonymous thks, i hear u!

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